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Lets face it, life can beat you down and you may be feeling like everyone else is supposed to be rich, gorgeous, famous and really nice. In the real world you many have noticed that in each of the circles with which you interact you may find those who are at the top of their professional game however, they are overweight and unhealthy.
If this woman is you, you’re not alone and, your conversation is centered on all the cool stuff you’re doing at work that does not give you the time for mundane task of taking care of your body. All this conversation about the time you can’t spend cooking healthy meals and exercising for a half hour a day impresses on the mind that you don’t want this because all you are talking about is how you don’t have time for health.
If you tweaked your words to include what you’re doing integrate health into all the cool stuff you are doing each time you speak with others, the mind begins to hear what you are doing and makes space for this to happen through your actions.
Speaking to others is important and so are the words you use, so this week be aware of the words you are using and the picture those words are painting in your mind. Remember that girls are watching you and learning you to build their self confidence and self esteem by looking at you and your actions weather you know it or not. Show them how to handle their business by putting their best foot forward in their conversations each day.
Another way you can speak up in your personal life is by taking time to, as the kids would say, “do you”. Personally, you may want to take a cooking class, attend a writer’s workshop or go to a movie of your choosing and again it is your job to Speak UP about it in everyday conversation. If you are the busy woman who has not time to do something you enjoy the conversation sound something like this with everyone you speak with. ” My calendar is so full I can’t fit anything else into my day with the kids, schhol, homework, my parents my man, I am just busy.” This is half true. Place in pen in your calendar time for you, it may be weekly, monthly, or biweekly, it doesn’t matter just put it in an honor yourself and don’t double book at that time. Then your conversation sounds something like this, I am taking my son to swim practice after work and going over homework for an hour but then I am reading my book for an hour before I go to bed. You get it the reading is your time, not to be taken by phone conversations with relatives about “nothing”. This is your relax time.
If the friends and people you are speaking with each day cannot handle the conversation about living your authentic One Jazzy Life and all they want to talk about is how they are living the life of “UN”, you may have to limit your conversations with them. This will naturally happen.
Have a great week and let me know how what you are speaking with other about this week.
Cheers, Janice Saunders
Speaking Skills Mentor to Urban Girls of All Ages
The life of “UN” is painful to watch so take these three keys and begin to unlock your One Jazzy Life using great speaking skills. Speaking to yourself and others about the life you desire is the beginning of UN to Jazzy. Don’t let anyone tell you that the life you desire is unattainable, or that you’re not qualified or you just plain old can’t do it because of some reason.
Your belief in yourself is key and believing that you are enough and what you are offering is good seems to be a good place to begin. Now grab somenting to write on, you need it to capture your thoughts.
Imagine you living your best life in five years by answering these questions.
Where do you live, how does your house look?
Who is with you, are you alone or with a family, and what do you do with your friends?
How do you spend your days, professionally and personally? At the end of each day what and who have you used your expertise to help?
Go into as great a detail as you can, right down to the paint color on the walls if you like. The better description you can make of where you would like to be personally and professionally the better.
When I first did this exercise one of the points I had written about was how I wanted my house to smell like good cooking every day and to be filled with those who love me to enjoy the meals with.
What is your dream? Imagine BIG.
Identify the gaps between where you are currently and where you desire to be. This is the time to focus in on projection. What will happen if you keep doing the same thing you are doing today? If you are building currently and like how it is progressing then that is an area you want to keep up the good work. However, if you don’t see yourself moving progressing in a particular area of your life that is important to you making your dream come true, then this is an area to formulate a plan to close the gap between where you are today and what would happen if you keep doing the same thing. If you need help formulating your plan email me and take advantage of a complementary One Jazzy Life Discovery Session.
Key # 3
Take action. Taking action is important to closing the gap. No matter what area you decide to close the gap in, action is necessary and so is your ability to measure how your actions are working. Weight loss is easy because you can add a healthier diet and exercise and I guarantee you will loose weight. The same is true in other areas as well, for example, if you choose to go back to school you will probably study for an exam, get a better grade, matriculate at a better school because of the good score you achieved and in the end be in the running for better paying positions. You must invest in ACTION, you may not see a clear bridge to where you want to go yet however, without action you might as well be going backwards.
These keys are to help you dream of the One Jazzy Life and focus in on which area you want to invest some time in to propel you to the next level. What I can say from experience is that is does take time and it does require Faith coupled with Action.
You can live your authentic One Jazzy Life and leave the “UN” life behind.
Leave a comment below and let me know what action you are taking this week.
Cheers to living One Jazzy Life
Janice Saunders, Your Speaking Skills Mentor
Your professional life is just that, YOURS. It is not based on what your mother, father, friends or preacher says you should do. All summer the Jazzy News has undertaken topics to help you begin the conversation with yourself about how to move forward on a personal/professional development plan.
This is key to living the life you desire.
Tip # 1 Think, ” I GOT THIS”
You have a big problem when you spend time thinking about all the reasons that you probably won’t have the professional life you think is worthy of waking up everyday and putting in ten to twelve hours for some days. INSTEAD of beginning the conversation with yourself by saying, “I’m equal to the best, I will succeed”. The words you use when you speak to yourself about success matter. Think about Stephen Curry, who is one of the shortest players in the NBA and won the MVP and just led his team to an NBA Championship, he I am sure began the conversation with “I’ll Win”, not “I’ll probably come in second, which isn’t bad for a short guy like me”.
Tip #2 Successful People are like YOU and they BELIEVE in themselves
Challenge yourself to start paying attention to your mindset around people who have a successful professional life. How do you talk about them to your friends and yourself? Are you conversing about how “those” successful people are not nice and they did and continue to do unscrupulous things to people to get and stay ahead in their career. Substitute that conversation with one that is true and centered around successful people being regular normal people with a belief in themselves and their abilities.
Tip # 3 Supersize YOUR Beliefs
Big plans and small plans require the same amount of work, that is a fact. Stretch yourself and believe you can achieve the big success. For example, in a workshop I facilitated a few weeks ago, one of the women shared she had three book projects that were in the works and my question to her was which could you see yourself promoting and adding to your income stream? She answered and put together a plan to work on that until it was completed. The energy she had when she left the room with a BIG plan that she BELIEVED could be executed was contagious. If you dream small that is what you will get.
Let all of us in Jazzy Land know how you use these three tips to strengthen your personal / professional development plan in the comments below.
Cheers to living One Jazzy Life
Janice , Speaking Skills Mentor to Urban Girls
Conversation Starter of the Week
Every now and then there is nothing wrong with taking a break from watching news. You may be thinking OMG I will be out of the loop, I won’t know what is going on and that is far from the truth. If something happens believe you me, someone will tell you about it as they share their tale of woe.
The news can be scary and can put ideas into you mind that make you assume that going for more in your life is not an option. On the news you see the poverty of other countries or the homeless at home and say to yourself I better hold on to what I have because there is not enough for everyone especially all of us people who did not go to Harvard.
Take a deep breath and start the conversation with yourself about what you need to do this year to Jazz Up how you make a living it maybe earn a promotion, land a position you love more than your current position or, simply earn more money by starting a business. Begin by asking yourself these three questions. Preferably when you would have been watching the news.
- Is the industry you are currently working in one that is in alignment with your core values.
Don’t just cop out with this by saying oh I get a check so everything is good, loose the cynicism and be honest with yourself. Many of you know I worked in Big Pharma for many years and this was not in alignment with many people even some of my family. It was in alignment with me because I believed and still do believe in the life saving power of science, so Big Pharma worked for me. Remember you can sell, market, manage, provide counsel or train people with any company.
- Dream up your jazzed up new position today. What would be your responsibilities, the outcomes and some of the problems you would be working with others on to solve?
You can say I want a new job but that is straight up old world lazy.Get busy looking at the core capabilities you do well and that you enjoy and match those to areas of your company.
- Begin by planning your week an including time for career and lifestyle exploration.
There is some unbelievable amount of hours you will be working for your entire life so why not include time to plan for it regularly and make sure you are in a field that allows you to earn enough to support the lifestyle you desire. Thank goodness the old days are gone where you worked with a company for 40 years and retired. I don’t know about you but that could go either way. Bored out of your mind or super challenging and you mover around to different departments.
Taking a diet from the news where “they” are telling you the whole world is headed for trouble in the next five to seven years is stressful. Every industry could go down the tubes in five to seven years. Don’t keep your head in the sand but also don’t allow this medium to make you not act from a position of strength.
Use your power of choice to make your moves based on what is best for you and your family. Take some time to focus your attention on your career/lifestyle and you will see results.
You would not be in Jazzy Land if you were not about professional growth. You can do it.
Share in the comments section what a home run would be in 2015 if your career/lifestyle was exactly what you desired.
Your professional life is important, the ripples spill over to every area of your life . If you would like to Jazz Up Your Professional Life using great speaking skills start by scheduling a complementary 30 minute One Jazzy Life Discovery Session . Investing the time in this first session begins to open your mind to your infinite possibilities.Read More
The three questions to get you on the magic path are
What are you passionate about?
Does your day include something you are passionate about?
Are you feeling healthy?
You may be able to remember approaching the one year anniversary of a big event in your life. Big events take form in many ways they are usually something you knew was on the horizon that completely connected with your passion.
My BIG EVENT
Last year I invested in attending the Jack and Jill conference because I am passionate about Moms and Mentors of middle school and high school girls creating and living the life they desire. This was a confidence builder for me. The business contacts and the connections I made encouraged me to do more in my business. So even though my current life requires I work not only in my business but in other areas to keep up my lifestyle, I feel great because I am busy doing what I love, teaching speaking skills to Moms, Mentors and middle school and high school girls.
Can you answer the question, What are you passionate about? My bet is that you can and then you get down because you can not do that all the time and make you high six figure income that you need to survive doing it right away. My gift to you today is a permission slip that says, yes you can do both and in so doing you will find the balance that adds more joy to everyday of your life.
Adding something that you are passionate about to your everyday mix is a blessing. There may be a list of things you are passionate about. Your job is to make sure you have something going at least one of those areas every day. Say for instance you are passionate about family, eating right, engaging women in the political process, your job, and of course your love life. Now every day you won’t be able to something in each of these areas and my charge to you is that you can do ONE a day in addition to your full time job. For example, you may have family game night on the first Friday of each month, the third Wednesday you meet with the women and plan on how to engage other women in the political process, then every Saturday night when the door closes to your bed room your significant other knows they are in for a treat. You get what I am saying, you can do something everyday to feed your soul.
In the feeding of your soul the last question you have to answer is Do you feel healthy. If you don’t, begin with an appointment to your doctor. Recently I went to my OBGYN because my cycle was causing me pain I had never experienced. The type of pain I told her I would do anything to get rid of it. My first thought was take out whatever is causing this pain NOW. We talked and developed some strategies for me to try before doing any cutting. That conversation with my doctor and implementation of the strategies she gave me has made me fee so much more healthy. This was easy, when you don’t feel well, go to the doctor and make them work with you to get better.
Line your path with supportive people who understand your passion and share it, with every hour of your day be intentionally involved in something that is connected with your many passions and do everything your your power to ensure your body is feeling good.
My intention for sharing these three questions with you is to gently nudge you and say you are loved, your passions and your health are important to you being on the Magic Path on the journey of life.
Keep your passions front and center, and send me an email if you want some support in speaking to yourself and the world about your passions and aligning your life with the direction that will make your days full of peace and prosperity.
When the girls you are Moms and mentors to really see this in you, it makes it easier for them to locate this joy in themselves. What a gift.
Cheers to living One Jazzy Life
Janice, Your Speaking Skills Mentor
Early Morning and Before Bed can make a world of difference.
Rituals are important. You may have celebratory rituals that create a sense of normalcy around holidays or birthdays. You can have that same sense of ease and peace around creating rituals that help you have great days that are productive and you feel wonderful on the journey. First thing in the morning is in your control. No one else is aware of those first thoughts you think or those first prayers you say before you even open your eyes to greet the day.
In the morning creating a visual picture of you being the type of person you want to be has made a huge difference in the lives of clients I work with and for myself. You can even create a word for the day or week that you want to embody in all of your interactions. While you are still in bed visualizing the person you want to be all day, you are on time, you have eaten a healthy meal, you have exercised, you aced your presentation and you are thinking about all of the people you might run into and the super cool out of the ordinary stuff that might happen as a result. This feeling makes you smile and have a great idea pop into your head that you know if you implement you will seal the deal on that job, promotion, investment or relationship.
The morning time is powerful, harness that power by taking a minute or two to incorporate this ritual into your day instead of getting up quickly, running out of bed and beginning the day without that quiet time. You may not get any quiet time all day so take it before your day starts.
Which brings me to before bed, another time that you control and very few people know what you do around this time. It is personal, private and very intimate time you can have with yourself just like the mornings. Journaling, and I don’t mean writing a novel and you don’t have to be Alice Walker in your writing. Just write five things you are thankful for, maybe a sentence or two about an unexpected gift that popped up in your universe that was wonderfully designed by the creator, a sentence or two about what you accomplished that day and why it was down right awesome and lastly I add an examination of my behavior of the day. I learned about this examination last year at a prayer meeting at my church and you don’t have to be religious to do it either. You simply look at your behavior and ask yourself if your actions, words or deeds hurt someone and if they did recognize it and try not to do it again.
In the powerfully ending the day prepares you for rest, you have closed the chapter on the days events and are ready to begin fresh the next day.
My challenge to you is to begin and end your day with these rituals for the next 66 days because that is how long it takes to develop a new habit. Comment below on how you felt completing this ritual today.
Face it, fear can cause you to stop in your tracks and never progress or take you forever to get where you want to go. We all know this feeling. You can read any number of scholarly writings on fear and the data around how it affects your daily living on Google scholar.
In the real world I have seen fear managed in three ways successfully.
Use FEAR wisely to
# 1. Keep you alert to new ideas.
#2. Keep you abreast of industry trends and where you can position yourself for success.
#3. Keep you training in your craft and establishing yourself as an expert in your field.
If you’re the type that has new ideas pop in your head every second. Devise a way to keep track of those ideas and schedule a time to review them and decide if any are worth moving forward on.
Keeping abreast of what’s going on in your industry might look like scheduling some time each week to research and read an article on your industry. Literally just one a week could help position you as a superstar because that translates to 52 articles a year and a tremendous amount of knowledge. This can only help you to help yourself and others on their professional journey.
Staying abreast of the training that experts in your field are exposing themselves to decreases fear. Do you need to sharpen the saw in some areas as it relates to your professional life? Maybe presentation skills, persuasive writing or selling skills might be training that could help you develop professionally and ultimately help you make more money. Sweet, who doesn’t want that?
When you notice fear, feel it and do the very thing that scares you because “Everything you want is on the other side of fear” George Addair.
Cheers to living One Jazzy Life
Conversation Starter of the Week
You may be ready to take the risk of seeking a promotion at work, declaring you want a new client every week or admitting that you want to loose 50 pounds. Each of these presents its own scary scenairo.
So you want to get promoted, well so does everyone else on your job. You begin to wonder, why am I special, what will make the manager choose me over Joe in the next cubicle?
Affirmation # 1
I a good at what I do and I have proof that I am making a difference.
This affirmation helped me while writing the book because it made me focus on the fact that I was good at coaching and the women and girls that I worked with gave me feedback to support this. By extension the book was a way for me to teach more people how to use speaking skills to position themselves for success. This affirmation made it easy for me to keep going when I got scared and thought no one cares or wants this information.
You can borrow this affirmation from me if you want to get promoted along with this piece of advice. Begin keeping track of the good you do. Every time someone says you did a good job or you improved a process or had a big win for the company put these letters into a special place and look at them often. These letter will help you build the confidence you need to take that next step professionally.
So you want to get one new client a week in your business. That is 52 new clients in a year, wow. That is awesome have you ever done the math on how much money that each client you have is worth and how much money this would bring into your business.
Affirmation # 2
Nothing is to good to be true. Nothing is too wonderful to happen. Nothing is too good to last.
This affirmation gets you into, yes, this can happen and the goodness you are feeling does not have to end. Now that does not mean you won’t be scared however, when I thought my teaching reaching more girls and one girl actually implementing some of what was in the book in her unique way. The fear diminished and I was able to continue writing.
You can borrow this affirmation for your business if you like along with one piece of advice. Begin taking action that would increase the sales of your products and services today.
So you want to loose 50 pounds, who doesn’t want to get rid of a few extra pounds. This does not mean you are not sexy nor does not mean you don’t like what you see when you look in the mirror. What it may mean is that cardiovascular disease is right around the corner and you don’t want that.
Affirmation # 3
I see clearly the open road towards good health. There are no obstacles on my pathway just fulfillment of my hearts desire.
This affirmation helped me to see a clear path towards being an author. On those days when I was too tired to write after work or did not allocate my time properly for the day, I would say this affirmation and calm myself. The writing plan I had for myself was moving forward like a train going across country that needed to stop for gas from time to time, take in the sights and occasionally stop because of engine trouble. This affirmation got me right back on track.
You can borrow tis affirmation if you want to take a few pounds off along with one piece of advice. Be compassionate with yourself while setting goals that you can measure. This may look like exercising 60 minutes a day and eating fewer calories. That means you have to calculate your calories and eat less of them. All of this you can measure and with increased exercise and decreased calorie intake you can get rid of pounds and keep it off. You can see the results by weighing yourself at a specific interval that could be weekly, bi-weekly or monthly.
Well I hope you have fun with these affirmations. If you have a few of your own that you have used to get things done in your life and reduce that scary feeling when you are doing something you have never done before, share it in the comments section.
Cheers, Janice Saunders
Your Speaking Skills Mentor
Three smart ways to add giving to your day
Conversation with Yourself
Giving of yourself is the fastest way to put a smile on your face and the recipient. When you put good “stuff” out into the world you’re going to get some good back when you least expect it.
This week my path crossed a woman who had a beautiful smile, it was so nice that I struck up a conversation with her. We had a wonderful exchange about the events of the day and I realized through the course of our conversation that she was a bit down. Her smile gave me the courage to strike up the conversation and talk to her and we ended up talking about the possibilities which the future holds for each of us. We don’t know what they are but we have to be where we are and take action everyday to get where we want to go. Her smile gave me the courage to give her the gift of encouragement in our conversation.
Wear a smile.
It opens the door to conversation and every opportunity begins with a conversation.
Tip # 2
Give yourself some time to write what you are thankful for daily.
Beginning or ending the day with what you are thankful for by way of journaling sets the tone of joy in your life because there is always so much to be thankful for. Noticing in your writing what you are thankful for can help direct your giving of time and resources to create more of that feeling in your personal and professional life.
Give the gift of listening to others.
So often you are tuned into yourself at such a high frequency that you hear the person talking to you but you do not hear the message they are sharing. Real listening is a tool of communication that is underutilized and by most people but if you can begin to practice this skill you will hear about opportunities where others just heard the words. You may miss a chance to give some valuable information to that person that could change their life or business.
Lastly, I would stay away from giving off a hopeless attitude. While having dinner with a friend the other evening she said you know what Jan, I am just not dealing with negative people any more. Giving to others and to yourself can be a great way to pick yourself up if you’re in a slump. In the process who knows you may connect with like minded people and create something wonderful.
There is a little in giving.
Let me know what your experience has been with giving.
Janice Saunders, Your Speaking Skills MentorRead More
Thank you for taking an interest in getting where you want to go in twenty years. No long story these are the three keys.
1. Create good health habits
2. Create an environment that supports your goals
3. Say yes to opportunities
Now the back story to each of these and how you can begin to think about if where you are today is supporting your twenty year plan or moving you away from your desired result.
Create good health habits
Beginning and ending with health is important. You may be at an age currently where you are not thinking about the long term ramifications of being even slightly overweight. You may think it is not a problem but as sure as the sun will rise, it will become a serious one and take away from you being able to enjoy the fruits of your twenty year plan. For example, suppose your career is rocking and you are the go to person for opportunities and you are moving up the ranks according to your plan. Then you become hypertensive with out knowing because you’re not managing your stress well, you’re making poor food choices and although you know exercise is important you make excuses for why you don’t do it. Then BAM you have a stroke. 49 % of African American women 20 years of age or older have some form of heart disease. The end result of this is you not being able to enjoy your twenty year plan because no one plans to be sick. So do what you can do to create good health habits and if you need a coach, reach out to me and lets talk about how speaking to your self about the importance of good health is a conversation worth taking action on.
Create an environment that supports your goals
Environment may mean a lot of things but let me put it to you this way. Who you are with matters. Who you talk to and who talks to you matters! If your significant other is telling you that you can not achieve your goals ever because you’re not good enough and you’re not smart enough or just plain old you don’t have what it takes. Believe you me, it is time to hear what that person has really said to you and examine if that persons points have merit. Then put them on notice that they can’t talk to you that way and if it continues you will be moving on. You can apply this same rule to your professional life as well. If you are working with people who are rude, unprofessional, and don’t allow you to share your ideas IT IS TIME TO MOVE ON, but not without another job in the pocket. If you need help creating these conversations and seeing how a change in your environment can improve your confidence and help you increase your income and happiness reach out to me because improving your speaking skills can get you the outcomes you desire.
Say Yes to opportunities
Time and time again I have seen women get scared and say no to the opportunity of a life time. The big reason for saying no to opportunies is rooted in “good reasoning”. When talking to clients these “reasons” sound more like excuses not to take a chance on yourself for advancement. For example, I met a woman who was was a paralegal who said she wanted to be a lawyer. Now, she had children and responsibilities and I presented her with a resource I learned of from a friend on becoming a lawyer without going to law school, yes believe it or not it exist. First of all it was an amazing coincidence that I even had that information and I met her and she needed the information. I shared the resource with her. Two months later, I was back in the office and inquired with her did she investigate this program and she said no and I asked how come. She had a million reasons that all boiled down to fear. The person who is ready to take a leap investigates then decides yes or no. The people who are fearful make excuses on why they can’t do something without examining the pros and cons. You can use the skills of investigation and be armed with the information necessary to say yes to opportunities. Yes, you may have some fear and you may not know fully how it will work and the confidence you have in your ability to get whatever it is working to your advantage will win in the end. The most important conversation you have everyday is the one you have with yourself about what you will say “yes” to and what you will say “no” to . Check in with me if you need to work on how to align your daily activities around where you see yourself in twenty years.
Twenty years will be here before you know it. Begin today with the end in mind and your next steps will be obvious and the confidence to take them can be built one day at a time.
Leave a comment below on what you are doing this summer to make your twenty year dreams a reality.
Cheers to living One Jazzy Life
Janice Saunders, MBA
Certified Professional Life Coach New York University
Your Speaking Skills Mentor
Every Opportunity Begins With a Conversation